Sis… When was the last time you actually played?

By RamaTulai

Sis…..WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU ACTUALLY PLAYED??

Not performed, delivered, led or solved problems.

Just… played.

Somewhere between back-to-back deadlines, high-stakes reports,

and carrying the weight of our teams’ dreams, many of us have become so deeply wired for seriousness… that playfulness feels unfamiliar.

Even uncomfortable.

For the longest time, I brought that same energy into my relationship.

Structured. Efficient. Controlled.

Everything had a purpose.
Nothing felt light.

A few years ago, I made a very intentional decision:
I wanted that part of me back.

And if I’m honest… it was awkward.

I didn’t even know where to begin.

I would laugh at the most random things — funny or not — just trying to reconnect with that lighter version of myself.

At one point, my partner paused and asked,
“Are you okay?” 😅

And somehow… that made it even more awkward, because I didn’t know how to explain what I was doing.

But I kept going.

And slowly, something shifted.

The energy softened.
The connection deepened.
The relationship stopped feeling like another responsibility… and started feeling like a space to breathe again.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

Playfulness isn’t childish.
It’s not unprofessional.
It’s not a distraction from who we are as leaders.

It’s essential.

Because when we lose our playfulness, we don’t just lose joy — we lose connection.

With ourselves. With our partners. With the parts of us that don’t need to perform to be worthy.

If you’re an executive woman reading this and quietly feeling like you’ve lost that softer, lighter part of yourself…

You’re not alone.

And you don’t have to navigate that alone either.

I’ve created a private space for women in leadership who are craving more softness, connection, and femininity — without compromising their ambition or success.

If this is something you might be interested in, send me a DM.

About the author:

Rama Tulai is an executive and Feminine energy coach and writer who helps high-achieving women break free from overfunctioning and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships without losing themselves. Follow Rama Tulai on Facebook for more practical insights, and tap Subscribe to join The Cherished Woman Circle for exclusive articles, coaching, and conversations designed to help you embrace softness with confidence.